Trauma Mama Daily Affirmation Day 1

Long time readers will remember that instead of giving up something for Lent, I try to find something positive to do. I wasn't raised Catholic and am not particularly religious, but I think spending 40 days working on making a positive change in yourself or the world is not a bad idea.

This year, I am going to focus on daily trauma mama affirmations. That is, each day to repeat to myself throughout the day a wise nugget of parenting advice that can help me on my journey of parenting a child with trauma.

Today's affirmation is let it go.

"Let it go" means not taking T's behavior or words personally. He got a crappy draw in life and he's justifiably angry about it. So when his anger comes out at me, I need to just let it go. Which doesn't mean ignoring it; it means recognizing and affirming it, but not taking it personally and not letting it push my buttons.

Let it go.

And you knew this was coming. But it's a good earworm for me today and every day:

Let it Go from Frozen

 ….the wind is howling like this swirling storm inside
Heaven knows I've tried….

….here I stand and here I stay
Let the storm rage on….

….the past is in the past….

Let it go, let it go.


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  1. barb_alootMarch 6, 2014 at 6:59 AM

    You know I'm singing along! At this very minute as my son climbs his indoor climber with a sandwich on a (plastic) plate while screaming that I'm the worst in the world for turning off the tv, let it go, let it go, la la la....

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