November 17 -- Children's Grief Awareness Day

An important read for anyone who has a child struggling with grief -- which includes all of us with adopted children. Here's a sample:

#9 – Even though I might be acting out, what I’m really feeling is intense emotions of grief.
  • Grieving children frequently feel sad, angry, confused, or scared.
  • Since they might not know how to express all of these emotions, they often end up acting out instead.

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